Any relationship can hit a rough spot, and every relationship can benefit from some extra time and attention. Many couples fear that starting therapy marks “the beginning of the end”, and that they are headed for divorce. Nothing could be further from the truth.
In our experience, most couples who come to counseling do very well. Some are looking to build or strengthen a few specific skills, like communication or conflict resolution tools, and find that working on these quickly improves their relationship. Some come for pre-marital counseling. Some of our therapists use a computer scored tool called FOCCUS to help couples identify areas of strengths and weaknesses, so that they can solve problems before they start.
Other couples may find themselves stuck in destructive patterns of many years’ duration. With time and commitment, therapy, like surgery, can help find and heal the sources of pain in a marriage, and help couples deal with the scars that remain. It can be hard work, but nothing is more rewarding than helping a couple come back from the brink of divorce, and go on to have a happy and rewarding marriage.
I very much enjoy working with couples, as do several of the therapists at Families. To learn more about me, please see more information here.
For more general information, please browse our site by starting out on our home page, or learn more about our therapists here. If you have specific questions, you can use our email form or call Deborah Tucker at 805-583-3976 x 733. When you’re ready to set an appointment, please call us and either leave a message for therapist of your choice, or for Deborah Tucker who can help you make a further decision.
If you're wondering what couples therapy might involve, please take a look at this article reprinted with permission from Dr. Peter Pearson of The Couples Institute.
I hope this information is helpful. Please call our office if you have more questions.